12.Demons of Sadness…!!!

Demons of Sadness…!!!

As Human beings we have countless dimensions in our mind. In those different dimensions we have an army of darkness. The demons of darkness have always been part of our life. Those demons always possess us by their multitudinous characteristics. Simply, we are humans and we have dark sides, part of our life.

I am talking about the negativity we carry in the form of thoughts, guilt, behavior, expectations, disappointment, sadness, pain, aversion, grief, loss, anger and feelings throughout our life. There are six basic emotions described by Paul Ekman. They are as follows: Anger, Disgust, Fear, Happiness, Surprise and Sadness.

As I have described, Demons of Sadness. The first question arises in mind, what is Sadness? The word “sadness” is not new to us. We all are very familiar with it. Some of you are reading this because they are sad now. So, why we feel it and what actually sadness is? Mostly when we say “Not in Mood” means we are sad. Sadness is something that makes us feel low, angry, negative and weird sometimes. There might be thousands of reasons for being sad. Sometimes, people gets sad for ridiculous reasons.

Definitely, there are some dark and harsh reasons behind the sadness of people. There may be some life events, childhood incidents like mental, physical and sexual abuse, parental issues and social isolation. Some natural disasters like cancer, accidents or health issues. Torture from society, relationship problems, sudden deaths and financial problems. These all are the causes which amplifies the demons of sadness in our mind.

In teenagers the main reason for being sad is the obsession towards different things and tendency to always compare with others. These are the major two factors behind sadness. We have everything to simply live but we want the things which either our friends have or the society and television marketing those artificial and fake things. Sometimes we want something just because some x person is having it. Otherwise we don’t care at all. If you get it then you are happy or you are the most depressed, saddest, hopeless, helpless, gloomy and poor person in the world.

Another reason for sadness in teenagers is breakup and their love affairs. They suddenly start liking someone and at their age every single attraction is their “True Love”. They can’t even think properly why they want, what they want! You like someone and you want someone in your life it doesn’t mean you will get back the same response. It causes temporary sadness and sometimes leads to depression.

Sadness is the normal mental process which is necessary for every individual. Sometimes it works as the spark in life. People tackle it in different ways. The basic difference between sadness and depression is, sadness is temporary while depression is mental illness, an abnormal emotion which changes every single emotion causes restlessness, mood swings and either insomnia or hypersomnia.

If you take sadness as a motivation, then it works positively and helps you grow stronger mentally. On the contrary, it would make your life hell. It depends how you want your life to be otherwise sadness is just an emotion. Its ok to be sad sometimes. No one can always be happy ever. For healthy life it is necessary to feel every emotion. It makes the perfect balance for our mental health. We are avoiding sadness instead of accept grief, feel it, live it and move on through it.

“Nothing is permanent” is the universal truth of this wicked world. These demons we create and carry in our mind are also temporary. We just don’t let them go and sometimes we just don’t know to trigger them. There are several ways to kill these demons. The another bitter truth about we humans, we cannot control the flow of our thoughts even if we are dying to stop it. May be we cannot stop but definitely we can refrain from it somewhat.

I think only thing we have to do is just accept the circumstances, feel it and cry even. May be in future you would laugh on these moments. Interact with new people, smile even if you are in worst period of life. That fraction of seconds when you smile makes huge difference mentally. Click selfies with your sad, poor face. It’s life and it will definitely have its ups and downs. So what, its ok. If you want to kill your demons, then just be happy that is all.